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There are activity sessions, and exercise classes, every weekday in my Mum's, which is a specialist Dementia Care Home, with around 60 residents on two floors, with nursing on the ground floor, where...

Dear Rachel, we have much in common! I too wish it was all over for my Mum, she is a shadow of her former self and it will only get worse, but she is in a wonderful home, tho' she doesn't agree, and...

We were offered less than a week, I was staggered! We needed longer than that to persuade Mum to agree to it, lol!

Good evening everyone. Just popping in to say that we heard today from Social Services that they will fund Mum's specialist dementia care in a different borough until we have completed the COP and...

My sympathies, was there myself just a few weeks ago. There is no one right way to do it, but whatever you do will be right in the long run even if it is painful in the short term. We did tell our...

Thanks Jennifer, I will call them on Monday.

Is it the Council or the home that do deferred payment schemes?

What is CRAG please.

I think a deferred payments scheme is maybe what we need?

Just to add to the stories so she knows it is not unusual - my Mum often misses the loo, messes on the floor, treads in it, pulls it out of the loo, puts toilet paper in her knickers, the list goes...

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Mum is self-funding, has a £45k income bond (life savings) paying £187 per month and a small works pension, plus state pension, and owns her house which should realise £250k. She has moderate...

Excema is stress-related and having dementia sure is that! Poor man, it's a double-wammy How about anti-histamines and aloe vera gel to calm the itching and help the healing? Aqueous cream is good...

It is hard I know (as my Mum is just two weeks into a lovely CH and is having a terrible time settling) but you must not let the guilt monster move in with you. You have been a great carer and can...

You need to get your Nan a Social Worker, who will help you access benefits (Attendants Allowance for example) for her, also free supply of incontinence pads, and maybe link you up with local...

I am so sorry you are experiencing this Jane. Can you steel yourself to ring Social Services, using terms such as your Mum being "at risk", you too, as you really cannot deal with all this alone you...

We had similar with Mum, she needed endless reassuring that she is solvent, still does. It caused all sorts of rows initially, with her saying I was stealing, keeping her short, exerting too much...

Well done you!

I would say write to the SW's manager too, as her involving relations who were not involved or responsible before is making a hard situation much worse, for you all, your Mum included too, and you...

Chemmy, that's a lovely thought, the thing about what being called Mum means. I do not have children, way too old now, and I will now cherish being called Mum by my Mum. Thank you for that x

Hi, I don't have much advice to offer, am sure others with experience will come along with that, but I think if I was you I would call PALS and ask them for advice, maybe the hospital has a dementia...

It has been so far with my Mum, who seems to have blanked out the sad times in her life so far, I don't know what is to come. She is mid-stage Alzheimers. She can sometimes cry when she sees pics of...

Ignoring calls is easier said than done though, isn't it, especially if the person calling you is having panic attacks even if you do answer, or is prone to banging on neighbours doors to ring you...

Different tricks at different times worked for us. Mum is still physically fit, and loved being in the bath initially, relaxed her, but it usually took quite a while to cajole her in and she couldn't...

If my Mum is in this care home, check her room, under the bed. Sorry, she has a fascination for toilet rolls, stems from years back when she was awaiting a bladder repair op, and took a spare roll...

We found, by accident, that Mum became used to new clothes if we left them in her bed, so she saw them a lot and they became familiar! She wore and wore and wore and wore the same things over and...

I sympathise, keep dissolving into tears every time I think of my Mum's face and what she said when we left her in the CH a week and a half ago. She is very restless and agitated in there, pacing up...

I kinow of a lady that hid things in the bottom of pot plants, mainly chopped up knickers! My Mum's hiding place was under her mattress, and now she is in a care home and can't lift the mattress, it...