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Sometimes they will do things for one person and not for another. My OH could (just about) get FIL to have a bath, but he never would for me, no matter what I tried - and OH was sometimes away for...

Yes, don't be put off by 'a bit shabby', nor necessarily impressed by 'stylish'. A cosy, homely feel is so important, and I would say staff who look reasonably cheerful.

The 'worst' CH we...

Yes, it's a hard one. I couldn't possibly have taken my mother's rings away when she went into the CH - she'd have been teribly upset -but they have all now disappeared. I don't blame the staff,...

About your dad maybe feeling bad - I was in this situation with my mother once (she's way past such things now) - she was worrying that she had forgotten to buy a present for someone in the family. ...

When I used to take her out my mother would fret about having to get back 'for the children'. By which she meant my younger brother and sister, both by then mid 50s. I used to say not to worry, J...

Could it be a case of losing inhibitions, i.e. she's saying things she might perhaps have simply thought before, while not dreaming of actually saying them?
Much like a young child who makes you...

Might be wrong, but I read it as 'trouble' from other residents rather than staff. I know this sometimes happens in my mother's CH - you do hear the occasional 'Get out!' or more colourful language. ...

Ditto. I should imagine these feelings are more normal than not. Only I guess many never express them for fear of being thought selfish and uncaring (often by people who have no idea what they're...

I hope you told her it was all true!

The 'holidays' rang a bell! Quite early on in her Alz., every time any country was mentioned on TV, even places like Kazakhstan, my mother had been there. I soon stopped saying, 'Er, I don't think...

Could you just say you're going to a coffee morning, for a change of scene?

When my mother was having her broken hip fixed, although I never heard it for my self she apparently kept telling the nurses that she was going to tell her father of them and he would have them all...

Must say that much as I love 'real' books, I have downloaded masses of the 0p amazon classics on the Kindle OH got as a retirement present!

As regards Large Print, I would echo advice about...

My mother started asking about her parents a few years ago. (they died 30+ and 50+ years ago). Had I seen them lately, they must be getting old now and could do with some help. (my mother is...

Gosh, I could imagine this happening with a new lady in my mother's CH. She is smartly dressed and seems very lucid at first. Yet last time I went, she was under the impression that my mother was a...

You must be a better person than me, that's all I can say. If I'd had that sort of relationship with my mother, I don't think I'd have been hands-on for very long at all. God knows it can be hard...

I have seen this once in my mother's CH - it was for a lady who often tried to get up but would certainly have fallen if she did, and simply couldn't remember that she couldn't stand or walk unaided....

Can't offer advice, since have never been in that situation, but do hope your poor dad will be feeling miles better soon. How lovely that you're able to take him home and look after him. He must be...

While I can see that this might possibly appear insensitive to some people, I do think most of us would see this title for what it actually meant, i.e. 'The odd/funny thing my own relative with...

Bin?
Oven?
Airing cupboard?
Freezer?
Washing machine?

Though I expect you'll have checked all those already...

My OH once cancelled a business trip because the CH phoned to say his aunt (90s) probably only had a matter of hours left. We charged off for the 2 hour drive to find her eating a yoghurt. She...

Well, fingers Xed!

I did occasionally think of being honest with my mother, i.e. 'I'm sorry, but you simply weren't safe at home any more, and we were all exhausted with trying to look after...

Personally I would not be offended by anything which is just a manner of speaking, and clearly not intentionally generalising, or for that matter judgemental or laying down the law. It is usually...

This is so hard for you.

Would you be able to enjoy the holiday anyway, or would you be worrying and feeling bad for much of the time?

What do you think your mum herself would say if she...

If you've got a local library might be worth trying there first instead of shelling out. All the above + lots more are in mine.