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Hi,

I think a newsletter is a good way to inform people (I did this when I lost my Mum last year although most people already knew). Sending a newsletter means you don't have to undergo the upset...

Hi,

I am still affected by the way my Mum suffered during her last year in the care home she was at. After she died, I wrote down my raw feelings/thoughts/views. A freind said I would be liable...

Wow , what a truly lovely way to be sharing. I have been missing my Mum more and more as this first year has gone by. I think the numbness that protected me at the beginning of my journey without...

Hi Christin,

I ID with your words. I am coming up to the first anniversary of my Mum's passing and I too have some days when remember where we were this time last year and how it all was for us...

Hi,

Just wanted to share that I smiled when I read your post as, although I know the feeling of coming up to the anniversary and all the difficult emotions it invokes, I also read that you are out...

Hi there Jude,

I will most definitely be thinking of you tomorrow. I am kind of warmed that you may be in the hot sunshine as that gives time and comfort when it will be needed. No rushing on to...

Hi Hollycat,

I really like what you do to remember your Dad. Its as if you step into his shoes once in a while and can then remember and almost relive how and who he was. I think its a lovely...

Hi Together,

You are so right that others who have never experienced the illness and the loss and the painful journey to the end, just don't have a clue about its impact on us. They may have lost...

Hi Chana,

My care and feelings are in your direction right now. It is a tough place to be and a tough journey to move through and it does get more settled as we adapt. I'm not sure it gets...

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I'm sat in work feeling sad today. I have actually been grieving quite a bit lately for Mum as if I am finally unravelling from all I went through with her as we all three (Mum, Dad and I)...

Well said Tenderface and well-done for having the 'balls' to say it. I back you and I back Jennifer.

I agree with everything both have said.

I realise that I feel strongly that anything...

Kassy, I said I wouldn't post again on this thread but I have to respond to this as its a reaching out.

Truly shocking that you are carrying this with you and truly shocking that you have been...

Hi there,

I feel a rainbow effect with my emotions too. Its now almost 9 months since my Mum died and I sometimes find myself in a tearful mode. I shake it off but I know its there lurking and I...

I just want to add having re-reading your first post again Kassy and what I say to the above is beat it down. Fight it because no-one else can fight it for you ... none of us on here can do that. ...

There is a saying ... 'it's never too late to learn' or, in your case here ... '...to relearn'

'Turn to' all tools available to help you - professional, friendships, family and, most importantly...

Hi,

First of all, a hug to everyone from me ... perhaps pass this one around as its big enough for all of us and I think we all need that:) And here's hoping those of you meeting up have a lovely...

Hi Kassy,

I'm glad you realise from those moments with that nurse, that you are stronger than you think. Talk is always better than chalk but on TP, chalk is all we have. I guess that's why I've...

One thing I read over the past few pages of this now massive thread(!) is that there is absolute truth that we as carers for others, when the need to care ceases, find ourselves in a vacuum and...

Hi,

I just want to say that counselling and counsellors will never make anyone better. They are there to be used as a tool to working through your own stuff on your own. They will hear you, get...

Kassy,

Tenderface says it better than any of us have done before. You have a choice ... allow the cards of the past to keep pushing you into the pit of despair and loneliness or accept them as...

I am warmed by your assertion that you will not be manipulated by anyone again. However, you must act as you want that to be which means you must assert this to him too whether he likes it or not. ...

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Kassy, why are you giving your son the power to control your feelings? You don't have to do that you know. They are your feelings, not his, this is your life, not his. And you are living...

I would say be true to yourself Kassy and answer in that way whatever it will be. Say it as it is in that assertive and honest way that you wrote to him the other day.

As for seeing him when he...

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I'm not sure where he's actually coming from with his comment ... seems there is some anger going on there as if to say to you that 'these parents have lost their kids and you still have me to...

Hya,

So glad you were completely open with your son about how you are. It said things exactly as they are ... and came over as honest and assertive. I don't think I could argue with that. You...