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Carers can't make anyone take their meds, only prompt them, as others have said. When my Mum had home carers, they used the same approach as Amber5's mum's carers, & Mum was quite happy to take her...

Oh how I agree.

Ali - an adult cannot be forced to care for another adult. It's good that your Mum is going to see her GP, who will hopefully confirm that her own health will be at risk if your...

I find it difficult to stop myself correcting my Mum, but am getting better at not doing so, as I've learned that it upsets her. And I have on occasion corrected her, & then gradually realised that...

Form E111 no longer applies. You need to obtain a European Health Insurance Card, which you can apply for online. However, it is very important to remember that this only covers you for medical...

Wonderful photos, Helen. The one of Alan on the bridge makes me think of my dear late Dad - it's just the sort of thing he would have done! And he loved birds too.

I'm glad you are finding the...

I have a close friend whose Mum was diagnosed with AD in her early 70s. She was prescribed Aricept, & in her case in took around 3 months to "kick in" - then there was a marked improvement. She then...

Dear Helen, of course you miss your Alan. Please do keep this thread open for as long as you want to - and talk to us about Alan & your life with him as much as you need to.

You will never be...

Danny, are you thinking of a set-up where someone could live in a self-contained flat with "extra care", but be able to move on to full-scale residential care or nursing care when they reached the...

I think you are doing all the right things already. Talking to him & touching him when you are with him are good things to do. Even if he can't see you, or is not sure who it is who is there, he...

Could you handle one more hug & or have you been squeezed to bits now? :)

I'm not surprised you've had enough, with so much on your plate. I've just read your previous thread to remind me of your situation - I wish I could think of any other practical suggestions to make,...

As you were a witness to the assault on your mum, I was wondering if the police have visited you to take a witness statement yet?

I'm so pleased that the funeral was just how you wanted it to be, Helen. Thank you for sharing the photo with us. It brought tears to my eyes & a smile to my face at the same time. How lovely that...

If she's bored at the Day centre, & won't join in with activities there, then it's unlikely that she would in a care home. There's also no guarantee that the care staff in a home would have any...

Yes, good point about DOLS. I should have thought to mention that.

My Mum's LA were reluctant to assess her, & the social worker who contacted me was keen to just send me a list of care homes &...

The forms will differ, as each local authority produces their own, but the rules are the same for every authority.

I feel I should point out that the reduction in Council Tax banding is a...

If your mother is going to be self-funding, then no, you don't need agreement from Social Services for her to go into care home. You would need to make sure that any care home she goes into can meet...

I'm just wondering if your Dad filled in the right form. What he needs to complete is a form to claim exemption for your Mum on the grounds of "severe mental impairment". Might he have filled in an...

I think you know that you have to listen to your "sensible head". I also know how much emotional turmoil that involves - I am very familiar with the feeling that I ought to be able to cope with more...

I agree with Beverley. This man can't take money from your Dad that he hasn't got, & though you may not like him, I'm not sure what harm he can actually do now, unless your Dad is upset by his...

My Mum can still be remarkably sharp when it comes to making (or getting) humorous remarks. And I can still sometimes deal with potentially difficult moments by appealing to her sense of humour.
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Hi WigglyMoon

What an awful worry this must be for you.

I agree with Vonny - try contacting your Dad's GP by phone and/or letter about your concerns. Give as much detail as you can so that...

Helen, I haven't been on TP for a couple of days & I did not expect to hear this sad news so soon.

It's a terrible shame that Alan's final hours were not as you had hoped. It sounds as though this...

Thanks for updating us, Echo. It's good to hear that you are feeling positive about your decision now.

My Mum has also looks much more like my "old" mum since she has been in residential care....

Dear Helen, don't be hard on yourself. You care for Alan with such love & devotion & you are not to blame for being very, very tired.

Just try & focus on those two lovely restful nights you have...