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Dear Hazel,

I haven't been on for a while but when I dip in, I always check on you and helen33 first. Both of you were have been here a long time, and though, like me, your struggle with dementia...

When my dear mum first did this, my heart broke. I remember it well, and sadly it doesn't really change, but there will be times where she looks directly at you and you will see she's still there. ...

By the way, the maximum gift per financial year, (April-March) is £3k. That can be awarded only to ONE person, after which she can make a £500 gift to TWO people and £250 to as many individuals as...

I think you've summed it up Lulubelle. I was always angry that dementia wasn't treated by the NHS, the same as other major diseases. The brain is a pretty important organ, yet you have to pay to...

I don't think we should judge. People are entitled to feel safe to ask any question here, and this will always be a contentious issue, so constructive answers and others' experience is a more...

Dear Hazel,

I rarely show my face these days, but do pop in to keep abreast of news. I was so sorry to read this particular news and it seems so unfair that life deals you this card after all...

I've posted it on my FB page. If he was my dad, I'd never give up. So I will do everything possible to help find him.

My heart breaks for your family. It really does.

My thoughts are with...

My thoughts exactly! Now I have nothing to write!! :D

Dear Pied,

I can relate so much to what you and Sue describe.

The blank expression you've written of instantly put an image of my own mum's eyes in my mind. I know EXACTLY what you mean. ...

Dear Ann,

I wish I could find words to comfort you, but they seem so inadequate. I cannot imagine the pain and worry you must feel.

I live in London and have also posted the link on FB. Until...

Dear Pied,

It's tiring enough running around, being a worker, a mum, a wife and a daughter to a very sick mum, but the exhaustion is often in mental terms when you reach this stage.

I remember...

Dear Pied,

I'm so relieved your mum is picking up a little. Try to use this time to build up your strength, and enjoy the good days...

I hope your mum has a relatively good day and remains...

Yes, I think Jennifer makes a lot of sense, and has been what I suspect a little too. I do think the role of the staff (and of people, by nature) is to sugar-coat or slightly enhancing the truth to...

Dear Pied,

If this is your mum's time, then you are making it beautiful for her.

You are already describing some quite serene moments and you'll be surprised at the calm that comes after the...

Dear Pied,

You are the daughter that any mother would want fighting their corner and you must keep that thought in your mind when dealing with uncomfortable and difficult situations. Remember...

It came from your heart, my love. That's where it came from.

I was choked up reading what you wrote. It was beautiful. You made your mum happy, and that's the best medicine she could ever have....

I think we used the syringe to drip water on mum's lips at the very end stages, so maybe it's something to just put on the back-burner for now? If your mum still moves her lips and can get her mouth...

I'm not sure if this is constructive, but I think the syringe driver for pain relief and the syringe suggested for feeding are getting mixed up!

I think, but please correct me if I'm wrong, that...

Morning Pied,

Sorry mum's not much better today. If I were you, I'd leave a note by her bed, or on the wall, suggesting the staff don't force any food today. I remember that even after the GP...

Big-Mama,

My mum made that! It was always my favourite! Mandorin jelly with Carnation and she would add tinned mandarins too (though not advisable in this case...).

It's the most gorgeous...

The Herbster? He's nuts!

We bought him the day mum died, which I think is really strange now, but seemed normal back then. My children asked if we could celebrate October 30th as it was the day...

Dear Helen,

I dip in...and out! But have been keeping a close eye on you! :D
xxx

Dear Pied,

It's been a while for me too, so a big hello first of all! :) Secondly, this is a long one...!

You remember much of what mum & I went through, particularly as we always felt our...

Much love to you, xxx

Dear Flowerpot,

I'm so sorry to hear the news. A sad, but touching reminder of the cycle of life on your MIL's 90th birthday. I'm so pleased, at least, that he passed peacefully.

Take care of...