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My brother took my Mum to a care home on Saturday. Thankfully she went without question. My brother told her she was going there on holiday. We both visited her today on separate occasions and she...

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Mum isn't in a home yet. She's due to go in Saturday.

My main role for Mum at the moment is as a chauffeur. I take her to places like her day centre. I don't have to interact...

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Just thought I would drop you a quick message because I also have young children (aged 3 and 1 and a half) and a mother with dementia (both she and I had our children later in our lives). I...

I took Mum for her second visit to the care home praying that it would go well (I'm not religious). To recap, the first time she went there she was violent kicking the manager. They said she had a...

I'm getting really panicky.

My brother spoke to the social worker today. They said they will speak to him again Friday to see how Mum got on in the home Thursday. He texted me after the...

Hi. Sounds horrible. Not really a lot I can do to help but I can empathise with the injustices and inadequacies of 'the system'. I suppose by the system I mean all the agencies involved, their rules...

Have just done a quick bit of research.

Should we be going down the avenue of asking about NHS continuing health care? Who and how? Should I perhaps email social services asking them to assess Mum...

Can I just thank everyone for their support and input. I truly appreciate it. I do read everything everybody writes even if I don't respond. Every time I write anything on here I just want to splurge...

I took Mum to the home my brother and I think Mum would like best (as much as we can possibly know) for a day trial session. I rang the manager the next day to see how Mum got on. For the first hour...

So much has happened since my last posting I can't remember most of it.

Social Services : I put a complaint in to social services and managed to change social services team. The team I changed to...

Had an appointment with the consultant psychiatrist on Tuesday and she was bril. I had my young daughter with me as well so it was a bit of a juggling act but the psychiatrist said she wanted the...

Social services ignored my email and turned up anyway and sent a message via my brother for me to be there at 4. As I had already told them I couldn't be there.

When my brother asked them in a...

I've now had an email saying social services will visit my Mum tomorrow to see how she got on at the home for the day. I'm really getting angry now. I had to email back saying that there's no point...

I took Mum for her assessment and she was stroppy. I asked if she would want to stay there and she said 'not for one million pounds'. Although I've taken what she has said with a pinch of salt. There...

Yippee! I found an ok care home yesterday - only the second one I've looked at. The activities co-ordinator was packing away the painting table as I was there and she has been given carte blanche to...

My Mum was assessed by the consultant psychiatrist today. My brother was there, I couldn't be as I had my two little ones to look after.

Although I heard the details second hand it sounds like it...

Yippee! The duty mental health worker has just rung. They said they would discuss Mum Monday with a view to seeing her later next week. I asked for crisis management (had to ask a few times). Asked...

I've had a 'phone call from the duty mental health nurse who took a summary. She says she'll speak to the doctor who will get back to me today or tomorrow and hopefully we should be able to have an...

As my brother hadn't heard anything he rang to chase. They said it 'is out of their hands' and now with the duty psychiatrist. I said to my brother I was glad it was a psychiatrist and not a...

My brother rang the consultants secretary today and thankfully she was there and he was able to talk to her. She pointed out that my brother should have taken my Mum to the last two appointments and...

My brothers girlfriend followed Mum to the hairdressers and has brought her back home.

Doctor says it might still be a uti so we need to get a urine sample from her - any tips on how we can do...

Mum has just punched my brothers girlfriend to get out of the house. Perhaps now someone will treat this with urgency and administer some drugs to calm her down, or maybe we will have to wait until...

Thanks for all your advice.

I find it cathartic typing out my thoughts and emotions but when I look back at them I also feel a bit exposed. Hey ho.

I am a little calmer now. The doctor has...

I have been thinking and thinking and thinking and I never thought I would hear myself suggest it as it seems so wrong, but what about sedation? Could that help calm my Mum down? Obviously I will ask...

Can I please let off steam.

I rang the mental health section of the hospital to fill them in on the current situation and ask what the next step would be and couldn't get a clear answer. When I...