My father is in care and has vascular dementia, although he would deny this strongly. He has always suffered from "hoarders" syndrome and gets verbally aggressive when not getting his own way. He has been in the home (which is very nice) for nearly a year and keeps saying "I want to escape and go somewhere else". I have found alternative places on two occasions but he says they are too much money (I dare not tell him just how much his care costs!). I cannot win and it is causing