PeggySmith
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As soon as MIL got to the hospital they catheterised her which was humiliating and awful. Eleven days later they discharged her to our local hospital and just took the catheter out which left her incontinent.

The hospital was lovely in its way and the staff were all very kind and caring but didn't seem to be doing very much about the incontinence and didn't appear to notice the dementia (???) She got very cross with me because she'd been taken to another hospital for a bone scan.

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Prior to the hospital admission, she'd had a scratch on her leg which, left untreated, turned quite nasty. The district nurses were coming in to change dressings a couple of times a week but the wound still got infected and she was put on a course of antibiotics. I hadn't been on here then and didn't realise that an infection would make the dementia much worse. She got quite panic stricken about when to take her pills because they weren't in the dosette box. To cap it all off, she and I must have

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Funny that. I created this blog for me then the first thing I put on it is a reply from the main forum. There seems to be so much to learn and deal with at the moment.
At the beginning: I guess it's about 18 months ago that I started to notice some little things which, in retrospect, were early signs that things were going wrong. MIL was always the birthday queen but she started to forget her grandchildren's birthdays and needed reminding about cards. Still, she was pretty independent when

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New development MIL not answering the phone when it rings. Got some brilliant advice which is here:
FEELINGS

When your MIL makes a call herself she is motivated to have a conversation - she has chosen to make the call and has gone through the steps needed to speak to that person. When someone rings her she is less motivated because she didn't initiate the call, and it has distracted her from what she was doing. Just the startle factor of the ringing might be enough to upset

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