Forum: After dementia - dealing with loss

I have not posted for some time my mum died in Jan 9th and her funeral was held amidst the worst of the snow in the north west. It was beautiful and surreal and we were lucky the funeral went ahead given the conditions. I was not expecting the level of grief and loss I am feeling. It was a relief...

Hello, Brief overview, dad diagnosed with early Alzheimer's in march last year, had a stroke in may which massively advanced it to vascular dementia. Been in a home since August last year with really no idea who his family is. Sadly, 3 weeks ago after getting pneumonia then losing the ability...

I lost my beautiful mom in February after a 9 year battle with dementia she was 59 when she passed. I feel I have already grieved for the mom I knew and now grieving again as she has physically gone. Dementia is such a cruel disease one that unless you've been there dealing with it you have no...

yesterday was mothers day. i posted my story of how i just broke down and couldnt stop crying.it was really an ocean of tears. i spoke to my son and again it set it off. he really cant imagine life without his parents. i have a close relationship with my children and i have a wonderful husband, . i...

I was ok. Im still ok, but i was talking to my son and all of a sudden i couldnt stop crying. I joke around, but i miss my mom today because its mothers day. Its the 1st one without her. I thought it would be alright. My husband and children were great--it wwasnt that, but we were laughing and all...

Im always writing because i love to write. I could be at it forever.it gets my thoughts out. And you guys understand because were all in this together. I remember when my grandparents died(my moms parents)-they died within 10 months of each other. My grandfather had a heart attack and my...

Happy mothers day mom. I know this is the first one that were not together, but it doesnt mean i forgot.how can i forget you! I wish yoou didnt leave, but i understand. At least youre not alone. Dads there. Hell make a fuss like he always does.i always remember you saying happy mothers day to me...

here i go again- but like i always say an english teacher, whether shes retired or not has to write to get those feelings out. im going thru a hell now like i cant even begin to describe. it seems a no of years ago a dr gave me a wrong med and its now making my liver enzymes go up. , so the med...

i try so hard to answer as many blogs as i can and i go to the forum to read what everyone is going thru. , so here i am again writing . i write to get my thoughts out. can a retired english teacher stop writing? this one cant.so many of you think youre going mad , or crying so much because of news...

My mother had alzheimers for 7 years.She died on the 6th november 2012.She was in a nursing home for less than a year.In october 2012 she got the shingles in her eye and was put on antibiotic.On the saturday before she died ,I knew she was giving up.I asked the staff would they nget a doctor for...

here i go again-i must say that all of you are so supportiive of everything- no matter what i write or how ridiculous it might seem because were all in this together. i really see now that im my moms daughter in every way that counts. ive been having a few problems with some nerves in my legs.i...

My dear husband Tony who had Parkinson's disease was diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia in 2010 and died in April 2012 just two years after diagnosis. He went downhill very quickly and it was a very difficult time for both of us but with the help of agency carer's I managed to look after him at...

my dad died from pancreatic and liver cancer and it was 18 years ago. i have the greatest memories of him. he had a sense of humor like nobody had. he was a natural and im like him in that way. i know this is for dementia, but can i say HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAD too? hes gone 18 years and my mom is...

i know i write a lot, but i think writing gets your thoughts and feelings out. for me it does. i guess thats 1 of the reasons i became an english teacher. i also loved the kids and they loved me. i was a strong teacher, but i also had a heart. the kids used to tell me YOURE 1 OF US.YOU BELONG. that...

After a short illness my Mother died yesterday. Ok, so she was 92 and had not a lot going for her with illnesses which included a broken shoulder, diabetes, dementia and pneumonia but she was my Mum and the only one I had. The Nursing staff and I made efforts to combat her last illness,...

It is three months today since we lost our lovely Dad. This was given to us weeks later from one of his carers. LETTER FROM HEAVEN To my dearest family, here are some things I’d like to say. But first of all to let you know that I arrived ok. I’m writing this from heaven. Here I dwell...

Just to say it has been over 7 years since Dad passed away in a care home. I have not been on the site for a number of years until today when I read about those who have recently had to accept that the safest place for their family member is in a care home. It is sad that there is still nothing...