Forum: Support for people with dementia and their carers

Hi All, I went to visit dad last night and was a little shocked to see him in the dining room slouched in a wheelchair. He was so far down that his head was resting on the back of the chair. It was a late visit (7PM) and one of the carers helped get dad upright. Fed him tea (cold soup and...

hi My dad has been suffering with Alzheimers for at least 8 years. His speech went first, now he can hardly walk. His wife cares for him 24/7 but never tells me fully on anything the doctor says about his decline in health. I would like to know how long she will be able to have him at home and...

My 96 year old mother-in-law who has advanced dementia (doubly incontinent, unable to stand) lives with us and we have carers visit three times a day to change her pads and move from chair to bed etc. She has been falling out of bed and has some really bad bruises. I requested a hospital bed (which...

Just wanted a rant with people who understand this evil disease!! My physically fit 72 year old mother has AZ diagnosed last February, her memory and confusion are getting worse. She is supposed to be the carer for my 84 year old physically disabled dad but is incapable of this obvious to everyone...

Hi, one year ago my gran was diagnosed with alzheimers. My mum & my aunt have been her main carers for the majority of this time, however due to complicated personal problems a home care service was employed to offer assistance & relieve some stress. We feel the service provided was less than...

Is there anywhere where people with dementia can stay throughout their journey without having to be moved on all the time.I have been reading many posts over the last few momths and everyone seems to be always on the move from one home/unit to another.

my situation is tricky as my Mum lives with my single sister and I live 100 miles away. As a nurse i recognise signs of dementia/alzheimer's in mum... over past 3 yrs. Mum always very private and declined suggestion of seeing GP re memory loss etc. Is generally well and has so far managed to avoid...

My husband is in a dementia nursing home and is about to have an asessment. He has a good private pension but small savings less than 8,000. He is unlikely to get funding this time. Will they take part of his pension? If so what percentage? I do not know how I will manage if this happens.

Hi All, What do you do when you go on holiday? My hubby and I are the main carers for my MIL & FIL (one with Alzheimers and the other with vascular dementia). They live in Sheltered Accommodation so have pullcords etc for emergencies but no other help. We visit daily to ensure medication is...

My dad was daignosed with DLB around 5 years ago now. Three weeks ago he had a bad fall, I called the ambulance to get him checked over as he was unconscious for a while. Things went from bad to worse then a little better and now it's at the stage where he can no longer swallow, he has been...

My poor Dad of 91 went into a Care Home in December and settled down relatively well after a couple of weeks. But following a fall, he was taken into hospital where they found he had pneumonia. He was discharged after a couple of days which was probably far too early and went back to the Home. ...

Hi, I've just joined the forum so forgive me if this has already been talked about in full; but I wondered if anyone could tell me if a normal symptom of alzheimer's is that the sufferer thinks there are 'two' things - my Dad is convinced that when my nephew stays with us there are 'two'...

Hi, It seems to be a day when a lot of us are sad. So I just wanted to send all of you a really really big big (((((((HUG))))))) Lots of love to you all. Love Michele

Hello there, I wonder whether anyone could give me a few pointers on this. I often read about people who have swallowing difficulties later on with dementia/Altzheimers. My mum Flossie eats with us every evening just to make sure she has at least one healthy meal (admittedly sausage and chip creeps...

Hi everyone, I am looking for some help for my Mum who is caring for my elderly grandparents and is definitely on th edge of not being able to cope anymore I was wondering if anyone knew what I can do to help her. I live down South where Mun and my granparents are about 300 miles up North. ...

Mum recently had a TIA or mini-stroke and the doctor has put her on aspirin daily to help thin her blood in an attempt to lessen the chances of her having another. She has Vascular Dementia and we suspect she is having several of these mini strokes. The district nurses administer her insulin and...

during my recent visit to my mum in e.m.i.unit i witnessed my mum being physically assaulted by one of the carers!!!!!!!!! i was extrememly disturbed and shocked to witness such a terrible crime,and to believe that such a thing could happen in front of me.ive since contacted social services.anyone...

Would anyone know if social workers have any real powers to block the admittance into a good private residential care home? My mother's social worker is against my mother going into a care home and seems to have an unrealistic view of my mothers capabilities. My mother has in the past expressed a...

Well seems to be the thing mostly these days that I just feel sad, with occasional bouts of anger and frustration. These last few days I have had to work very long hours, Saturday for example I left the house at 8am and got back at 11.30pm having traveled 400 miles and worked between that. ...

I wonder if anyone has any thoughts on what might be the problem here? My dad gets up to go to the toilet through the night, gets there OK, but ends up with wet trousers and a wet floor. The thing is, he's absolutely fine with the (same) toilet through the day. The other thing is that this...

Hi all, I was speaking to my best friends mum today that I havnt spoken to since my mum was diagnosed and she was asking how my mum was and got a great shock when I told her that she has Alzheimers, but she was telling me about a friend who has some sort of new patches to put on the arm that has a...

Last night my Mum got in to a state because she could not find her hair roller. She asked me to help look for them. She got really bad tempered about it,started to swear to which I said please stop saying such things.Then she came towards me with fist as if she was going to hit me. I shut the...