Forum: Support for people with dementia and their carers

MIL asked if my son would read a poem or something at FIL's funeral but so as not to upset anyone I said lets find something long enough for all 6 of them or those that want to and they can read a bit each. Found a really good poem - aimed at funeral for AD sufferers. Son thought it good (more...

My father has short-term memory loss & he's in his late 60s. I took him to see his GP & asked for her to refer him to a specialist as it seems to be in the early stages but is getting worse every week. She told him she would refer him to memory clinic but he's been referred to psychiatrist at GP...

this will probably sound very selfish as I know I don't have it as hard as some people but here goes anyway! My daughter, 14, is a keen and pretty accomplished ballroom/latin dancer. I'm really happy that she has stuck with a hobby as a lot of her friends just sit around on their games consoles...

Hi everyone, My Dad is 70 and has moderate/severe Alzhiemers. Other than this he is in good health, with no other aliments. I dont wish to sound morbid, but I need to be realisitic and get a policy in place to cover funeral costs in the future (I reckon he'll live for a long while yet,...

My grandad passed away in October after suffering from vascular dementia for many years. He was in a dreadful care home for the last 2 years of his life. The care home fees were paid a month in hand on the 9th of every month, my grandad passed on the 12th. I am trying and failing to get a refund...

So I've been very brave this week getting my affairs in order. I'm off from work this week and, after receiving my POA last week, have spent my time getting it registered with dad's banks and utilities companies. I also went to the doctor this morning for my 'stress-related' excema, which I have...

Is there anyone out there a dual carer? I care for my husband who is 89 and has alzhiemers and a 24 year old daughter who has brain damage and moderate learning difficulties. I'm 45 (yes that right) and I was aware of age related problems when I married him, ,but my daghter aquired her problems...

The last 4 months have been very difficult. Watched Dad's dementia worsen and become increasingly susceptible to infection. Then in November Mum had a stroke from which she never recovered and passed away last month. Meanwhile Dad has gone into a Nursing Home as he can't cope without her - and...

Hi All, I had a mail this morning from a family member. She mentioned that me looking after my mum, was a burden I carried well. It's our mum. Thinking about it for awhile. I feel that I have never ever thought of caring for my mum as a burden on me at all. Maybe there could be things I have...

Hello My elderly father has Alzheimer's and is suffering from incontinence, at the moment, only during the night, and then only about 25% of the time. Things will only get worse though He has a plastic 'fitted sheet' below a mattress protector and two normal sheets on his bed. ...

Walked BIL through choosing a care home and settled on one yesterday. MIL is probably moving in tomorrow. PANIC has now set in. On top of everything else, BIL has always said he'd take MIL's cat if she had to go into care. Yesterday, he changed his mind so muggins here is now lumbered with...

I received a call from Nursing Home,instantly knew the number...my mum had a bad fall the staff nurse told me and was on route to hospital,this was at 2.45 and was informed mum had a bad gash too her forehead.Mum received 8 stitches to her forehead and extensive bruising,an NH carer brought mum...

Hi all. I cannot get my head around how care is funded by social services. My dad owns the house 100% he is my mums carer. She doesn't own it because when they moved it was clear she had dementia and it seemed daft to jointly a house when we have a LPA in the process of being registered. The...

I have noticed on several posts, when talking of looking around care homes that seating around the walls seems at times to be a minus point. My thoughts - In a residential home groups of chairs around a small table creates a cosy place to chat and have a cuppa. In care homes for residents...

I wonder how many Talking Point users have been stopped in their tracks by a piece of music, perhaps heard on the radio or TV, which plugs straight into their deepest emotions. I’m a 24 hour carer for my wife who has dementia and I’m very good at pushing my emotions into a place where they are...

i have been really stressed and worried about mum , with her dementia and associated problems .. especially in the last 6 months . i was going to write an in depth event of the last year or so , only to delete and re write again .. i will keep it simple , and just say i thought at one...

Mum's care package started two weeks ago. We still have no idea who her social worker is, a lady.has visited from social services but.she said she's not Mums appointed social.worker. We haven't.heard anything from the psychiatric team following Mums assessment. We haven't got a commumity...

Hi to all reading this; hope you've all had a lovely Christmas and New Year, I've read through a few of the old messages posted on this forum but I'd like to ask about alarm systems - the sort with a panic button that Age UK provide. My sister and I share care of Mum who's 91 and (we believe)...

Just hearing some Irish music and my heart drops like a stone so heavy with sadness. I think about the music my parents shared when Dad was alive, how much Mum misses him and much I miss the person she was even though she could have driven me round the bend. Wish she was still so feisty and...

Can anyone help to sort out my dilemma! My father has diagnosed early onset dementia. He has very limited short term memory. His long term memory is ok & he can still manage to do most things himself. He is an insulin dependent diabetic & he can administer this himself although he has to rely...

My aunts care bill has finally come in after 9 months:eek::eek::eek: She has over the £23500 in savings, and a house that we are in the middle of selling. The council tell me that there is not a 12 week disregard on the care home fees because she has savings above the limit. Seems so...

Hello :) my partner's mother has just been diagnosed with moderate alzeimers. My question is how can I support him fully and help her at the same time? He has moved back in with her for the time being as she also has kidney failure and is currently in dialysis 3 times a week. Does anyone have...

So my mum suffers from anxiety (she did pre-dementia too but now everything is a major worry for her). No matter how much I try to make life easier for her she still finds something, anything to worry about and I'm the one she rings to share it with. Yesterday the entire day was spent worrying...

Hi All, I just posted this on someone else's thread but then thought I have to face up to those dinosaurs in my head so decided to start a new thread. Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear. We've been invited to a "family" meeting at the hospital tomorrow but they're going to say that MIL can't come home...