Forum: Support for people with dementia and their carers

Today was a strange sort of day. Started out fairly early when off we got into our new car:D, and went to North Queensferry Deep Sea World, mother wasn't sure what she was there to see but i said it was just a little day out. (A little hint, if you take any of your loved ones there just state...

Hello all. At this moment my mother - who has vascular dementia,dysphagia,high blood pressure and chronic kidney disease stage 3 - is in hospital with her second bought of aspiration pneumonia. The first time she got better and was sent home on a puree diet with thickened fluids having being...

My uncle has been diagnosed with an aggressive form of dementia. Apparently he has significant frontal lobe features. I have read about Frontal Temporal Lobe Dementia and understand the symptoms etc but I just can't relate the copious information I have gathered, to my uncle's problems. Yes, he has...

My mum is in residentail care in Lancashire and I live in London. As she receives less and less visitors now I would like to move her to a nursing home closer to my home so that I can see her more often and so that she can see her grandchildren more often, they really do light up her life:D. I...

Since David's return from hospital we are having increasing 'accidents' mostly at night, but also not getting to the toilet in time during the day. I know many of you have had the same problems and I am wondering,from your experience, if you can tell me which type of pads you found the most...

I blogged yesterday as I thought it would help figure out how I'm feeling and why I feel this way. We are taking a holiday for 3 weeks from next Friday. :) However, the last few weeks I've been feeling so uptight… didn't know why as I should be excited about going away. I know we can get stressed...

Hi, Mum has been in care for nearly a year now and I am concerned that recently she has been hard to motivate and says she is happy to do nothing. When I say happy, she is happy as I know this could be a sign of depression but she is cheerful most of the time. I am exhausted by trying to get her to...

Hi Just wanted to tell you what happened yesterday when I visited my 85 year old mother who is now in a nursing home (7 weeks). We were reading the newspaper together and came to an article on people living longer. The average age of death for a women is, apparently 75 years old. My mother...

Fingers crossed these work! Dad had some really good moments (which the pics show) but he was terribly confused and disorientated. At times, it was really sad to see just how confused and anxious he was. Whilst day to day the deterioration may not be evident because of his established...

My Mum lives with my step dad and since March and his retirement he has stopped access to her. Having involved all the Social Services, the Police and now an IMCA, she continues to tell them she doesn't want to see or ring me. I'm empty, lost, grieving. I don't understand why, but because...

I have read the excellent factsheets on the Alzheimer's website, as well as other stuff produced by Google searches, but would like to solicit advice and views based on the experiences and opinions of others. I am sorry that this is a lengthy post. Mum (89) has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's...

As a new member, i would like some help and ideas. My husband has dementia, diagnosed 18 months ago, but certainly has had simptoms for at least 6 years. He completely denies anything is wrong "everyone of my age has a bad memory". He is in his early seventies! He has been prescribed Aricept,...

:eek: At long last we have booked respite for my Mum........ after so so much soul searching on my part and some wonderful advice from all the lovely people here on TP and of course trekking around the homes, i have finally done it. We have also booked ourselves a 2 week holiday in our...

Today I feel like one of those circus acts where the man is running up and down trying to keep the plates spinning. This week I have been trying to help elderly friends deal with SS. The wife has dementia and has been discharged from hospital without a proper care package.:eek::eek: Today Mum...

Hi all, I applied for a carers direct payment or grant, in the hope that we could buy a new laptop, as ours is that old it's powered by steam lol. Anyway, I've just discovered that although we qualify for the maximum amount, which last year was £500 and would have been plenty to buy a new...

Last Weds my husband went into unit for hip replacement. When I visited on Thurs he seemed fine but had had a serious bleed. thurs nite at midnite I was called by hosp to say he had gone beserk and pulled all his tubes and was rushing around with no crutches demanding to go home. He asked me to get...

Hello everyone, Today is the day I have been dreading, yet at the same time waiting for. My Dad has his follow up visit to the GP - he asked us to return in six weeks to see if Dad has improved since last time, before referring him to the specialist. He is going to ask him more questions to...

My Mum has frontotemporal dementia and has been getting progressively worse, more so over the past 6 months. As her carer my Dad does the best he can but it has to be said that this doesn't make best use of his skill set; he is not a natural nurturer. She is doubly incontinent, but he struggles to...

Hi All, Mum had her 2nd day at day centre today. When I got to her home to get her ready she was adamant she wasn't going. I was a little concerned, but I knew I had to persevere. In the past she has got the better of me-I'm a soft touch and always give in, but I know I have to persevere at...

Hi again, I wondered if speech therapy might help my uncle. His diagnosis isn't at all clear and although it is plain that he is very seriously depressed the doctor has said that there is insufficient evidence to give a diagnosis of depression but confirms a diagnosis of dementia with significant...

My lovely mum passed away this morning at 3am.....I am so so sad I was not with her,but the staff at the care home were great so she was not alone,they said she was very peaceful and was not in any pain... I will keep in touch as you all have been great support to me. Love Eve xxx

We visited a lovely nursing home today and my spirit was uplifted to the highest possible level. We turned up unannounced at a bad time (lunch), but were welcomed by a remarkable young lady who I think was Romanian. Her command of English was good but not great however she was able to communicate...

Her SW has arranged some respite at very short notice for tomorrow,to give us a bit of a break! Guess who says shes not going???But guess who IS going!! She says she doesnt really want 2 "holidays",she will just go on the one when we go later! The SW says to take her,and leave her there for the...