Forum: Support for people with dementia and their carers

Hello everybody, my mum has now been to and from the memory clinic for at least a year - it took me long enough to persuade the doctor to refer her and it just seems to be taking forever, i am starting to get very frustrated. We've been to see a doctor three times now at the memory clinic, each...

Hi all, I hope you are all well and enjoying the nice weather. I have a question which maybe is not the right place to post it but am hoping I can get some help. Dad lives in sheltered accom amongst older people. They have been really supportive this past year that dad has lived there and at...

Does anyone know of a computer program to help those Alzheimer's sufferers with speech problems? My Mum is struggling with words and I wanted to see if there was some speech therapy program that could possibly help. She was initially helped with speech therapy, which was one visit and not really...

My mother in law, who is 70, was diagnosed 5 years ago and all that time her husband looked after her, but unfortunately he died on the 17th of February 2010. Now my husband and I are looking after my mother in law. And I would like to know is it any benefits or free services or help that we can...

My mum was diagnosed with Alzhiemers in September 2010. Am lucky to have 3 siblings to help with taking care of mum and she is currently still living at home. I look after her 3 days a week (recently been made redundant) my other siblings 1 day a week and my mum attends a lunch club 1 day a week....

Hi all, Bryan seems to be settling in o.k.and is looking really well. It is me who is a mess. Cannot seem to focus on anything.I now have all the time i want to do what i want but i seem to be walk walking around in a daze most of the time and just going thru the motions of doing everything. We...

Hello! I have just joined up today and just wish to introduce myself. It may be early days but I am very afraid my Mam is suffering from the early stages of dementia. The problem I am facing at the moment is my Mam refuses to see a Doctor . Does anyone have any advice they can offer me?

Hi everyone just thought I'd post as I'm feeling really down things seem to be goin well with my nana however I keep getting these random moments were I feel really depressed and can't stop myself crying alot of the time time this happens when I go to bed therfore I cannot sleep but I seem to be...

Hello i am hoping someone can help me with this problem, mum has been in a home since last september and she now needs to sell her house to continue funding this. however my first problem is how can we find out where the deeds to the house are. my sister seemed to think that they were with...

Went to see nan as i do everyday (advanced VaD) She deteriorates everyday but i try and make most of the precious time we have together. Throughout this process of her rapid decline, I have been very switched off emotionally. I feel numb and feel like i am in auto pilot. Have hardly cried and...

HI All Yesterday I gave up my job to be with MIL full time. She was wondering around saying she was going to go home. She left the house concerned 20 years ago to live by the sea. In the end I told her I would walk with her. We walked around the block till she was so confused I finally got...

Assuming no adverse effects, what is normally the result of a dementia patient taking Aricept? I have been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's but I also have some unexplained fluctuations every day during which I become extremely inattentive. I recently started Aricept and was pleased to...

Hi everyone I'm new to the forum so I hope this is the right place to post this. I'm looking for some help for my Dad, who's 81 years old and alone after Mum went into a care home recently. Mum has Alzheimers, and Dad's been caring for her for many years - with a healthy dollop of denial -...

Mum is in an EMI Home, the costs are more than double her income. Fortunately she has savings, and an apartment to sell. My sister and I have EPA for Mum. We are considering an Immediate Care Plan which seems to be an annuity type arrangement (based on an assessment of expected life span, which is...

Hi Whenever I drop in on TP again, I don't know how my mind chooses what to read from all the New Posts. I happened to read JoJo's post about not telling the shocking truth, and the replies to it, and it provoked some thoughts. Rosaliesal's story reminds me a lot of mine, except that my...

Hi All, A thought it's strange that with the short term memeory, When I prompt my Mum, she I think possible remember. Wheather that is true we don't really know.Could be another part of the brain that does that who knows. Going out for our carers meeting today. The local Mason's offered folks...

Dad has moderate VaD. Its now 11 years since Mum died. In a discussion Dad initiated this morning, about his more distant relatives, he became upset about forgetting people he used to know. As is often the case, this led him to get very anxious about his condition, he curled up into a foetal...

Hello everyone. Just need to talk to someone apart from my husband.I lost my mum 7th April 2010, nearly a year now. She had Alzheimers for 4 years before she passed on, it was the contributary factor of her death, and old age too, she was 89 and 10 months old. I cant stop grieving for her. We were...

don't know whats a matter with me today tears seem to be close to the surface & have had to resort to nipping to the loos at work to cry:( I seem to push people away, they are being really kind an offering hugs, but I am so scared that there will be that one hug that pushes me over the edge Am...

Hi dont no why mum seems really happy in the care home but today I just feel really sad.I dont post often but I know you all have felt the same.Saw mum today lovely smile when she saw me I suppose I feel guilty about not being able to keep her in her own home. Sorry to be so negative happier day...

Hi everyone, I've started the task of looking at care homes for my dad. I feel like I've learned so much about dementia in the last 7 days since leaving my other post. Thanks again for the kind advice and prompting. Does anyone have any recommendations for the North East? I have this fantasy...

Can anyone help with advice on what to do or where to get help for my mother in law who is caring for her husband with Alzheimers's. He is refusing to wash, shave or change his clothes. He was always a well dressed and clean man so this is very upsetting to deal with. He even sleeps in his clothes...

Hi Im new to this forum, I am a dementia nurse and I will answer any questions people may have Karen:)

Sorry to be so niave, have very limited experience as have been supporting M I L in her Care Home, which is a "Trust" run home, the place was arranged by/via Social Services. Having read some "New Posts" today about the appalling level of support given, concerning Incontinence, in some NHS Nursing...

Hi My Mum is 93 is still active,She has been diagnosed with Lewy Bodies.(??) She visits the second hand shops almost every day come rain or shine. She is buying ( and also hoarding) things that she will never use. The tat she puts around the house but the clothes she buys leave us children...