Forum: Support for people with dementia and their carers

My mum who is 67 has been on a mental ward for 2 months now detained under the mha. Her alzeimers is so bad now she just walks the corridors crying. The only thing she says now is "i dont know what to do". The last time i saw her it was just awful, I felt like she didnt want me there, could find...

Hi as Mum struggles with standing and walking and is quite rigid we are struggling trying to get a coat on her. We thought a winter loose poncho would be best. Does anyone know any stores that have these? We only have M n S , Next, Asda Tesco etc but perhaps could order one online. Thanks

Hi If I said I have regular, massive arguements with my sister about my mother's care (and anything else going), I'm guessing I would not be the only one. I know that disagreement and relationship breakdown amongst the carers isn't rare. I try to see both sides, and be objective, though of...

Slowly, slowly I am losing mum, some days I cope well, not today I am afraid. I find myself wanting to talk about it all the time, my friends listen and sympathise but I know I must be stretching their patience, I bore myself sometimes! Think I want a grown up, preferably mum, to step up and take...

We got full time care in for my grandmother, and it should have made everything better, but really it just allowed me to sink into depression. I've been really quite poorly with it actually. Only just picking myself up and getting better. But now, I'm feeling better, things are looking up,...

From 07 to 14 September I took my husband MMSE 5 to a self catering cottage in Southwold for a week. It went really well and he loved it. Since we have come back he just keeps smiling and saying how good it was to see the sea ( probably actually hear for him as his vision is very poor such that he...

Mum had a fall at her care home yesterday. They rang me and said they thought she had sprained her ankle as she was weight bearing on it. It seemed no one saw her fall, they just found her on the floor. We were due to take mum out to a concert but she was saying she didn't think she could manage...

It is becoming apparent that because of my Grandmother's alzheimers she is not making reasonable and rational judegements about caring for her health. There is no lasting power of attorney for her health but there is for her finances. She is resisting strongly to any medical treatment or...

On Friday I was at Quiz Night and the local Rotary Club are planning to create a Memory Cafe, so put leaflets on the tables. On our table, several people made comments, which I found very interesting. "Look for the losing team and they are the ones with Alzheimer's". "Oh I forget when it was"...

A little help please. My Grandmother has alzheimers and is progressing quite rapidly. Her short term memory is shocking My grandmother is refusing to take any medication which is vital for health. She says she is fine and doesnt understand why she needs to take them. We are not at the stage where...

When i came in last night i asked if my mum had eaten and she said no and i got all flustered as usual and asked..."WHY NOT?" She said 2 things A- "I was not going to make a dinner for just one" B- "I was not Hungry". Anyone had a similar experince??

given that I don't always know if Daddy knows who I am or not, think not, don't ask but sometimes I wonder what is going on in his head, and, without upsetting him, a little gentle probing goes on. Turns out he doesn't always know who I am - he knows that - so why is he happy with me taking him...

It's all very weird at the moment. Mom is relatively settled, the paperwork is slowly being completed, bit by bit the dust is settling. I've thrown out the carpets downstairs (too many spills of bodily fluids if you know what I mean ;) ), cleared out bags and bags of "stuff", started to...

I just wondered whether anyone has any practical advice on how I can stop my mum constantly worrying and checking whether she's got her key, her hanky, both gloves and her purse when we're out. It was a lovely afternoon in Hampshire so I took her to a local arboretum and we had a pleasant walk,...

Hi all I just wanted to post an update of sorts and hope that my situation helps anyone faced with prospect of placing a relative in a care home who would "rather die than go in one of those places" My Dad has been in a week tomorrow and I could not have wished for a better outcome. This...

I thought I'd just give you an idea of the last week in our house! we decided to paint the lounge area - now, the walls were covered floor to ceiling with pictures so we took them all down and religously filled all the holes. The next morning my partner was convinced that another woman and man...

I'm finding today difficult. Things have been a bit better lately. Dad had his dosage of Aricept put up to 10mg and this last couple of weeks seems to have been much more with it. Things have been calmer and more easy going at home all round. I've even felt pretty good myself. This last week...

I haven't posted here for a long time and am in need of some advice for mum and dad. My mum is in the very final stage of AZ. She has been in a semi-conscious state now for approx 1 week and hasn't eaten more than a couple of teaspoonfuls of eg porridge for 10 days. She can't weigh more than 5...

Yesterday my Mum’s identical twin sister died, three months to the day after my Mum died. This hideous disease took them on different journeys but they had similar endings. I should have known my aunt wouldn’t hang around long after Mum went – they had been inseparable in spirit for 85 years and...

Hi, I am new to this site, have just got my husband into a Day Centre one day a week, how do you keep their focus on going and not get bored with it, so far he would rather be there than be left on his own for a short period.

Grrrrrrrrrrr………mum had been doing so well, she looked relaxed, smiled, talked more than usual and then the care home made the most bizarre decision. They moved all the people she shared a lounge with downstairs and moved the most ‘vocal’ residents into their place. Mum gets really agitated with...

Well the front door key has been cut and handed over. Mum has seen the Manager and her carer today, and amazingly she smilled and said she's quite happy for the carer to come in and look after her when I have my break the week after next! I've decided the way to deal with my Mum is for her to...

I have just had a letter from our Medical group saying that in the last couple of weeks some information has come to light that 40mg Simvastatin is less safe when combined with Amplodipine than other combinations and they are changing the 40mg Simvastatin to 20mg Atorvastatin for Allen and he has...

I really am in a bit of a mess today. I keep thinking I shouldn't be on here I should be up at Dads. Went round to his place this morning and my brother was there. J and I had words yesterday. All he had to do for the whole day was sort out a mobile phone I had got for him, so that he could be one...