Forum: Support for people with dementia and their carers

Hi our Mum has vascular dementia and is now of Oct this year in a lovely CH.she fell from bed last week and broke her cheekbone and eye socket after a day in hospital she is now back in the CH.we have been to see her and she cries constantly and groans- the care staff say she does it all the time...

my wife is dreading Monday morning as her week looking after mother starts all over again she knows that her 83 year old dad will have allowed mum to stay in her bed over the weekend from Friday night until monday morning fed her all kinds of TREETS such as Trifle sweets Chocolate ice cream etc...

So mum's getting worse,she nearly burnt the flat down while I was at work. Yesterday she kept saying im not her daughter, i'm her 60 year old brother who she hasn't spoken to in 4 years. She kept asking where her husband is, she's been divorced nearly 30 years. She thinks i'm lying about these...

New to the forum so please be gentle. My mum has had dementia now for about 5 years and between me and my sister we're sort of coping. The biggest problem we have is with her incontinence. We've purchased washable bed pads ourselves and we also get prescribed disposable bed pads and shaped...

Hi, my first post, my Mum who has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's needs a new telephone. Recently she has become confused with her phone occasionally turning it off or not putting the handsets back on correctly, she has a cordless phone with handsets in the lounge and bedroom in her...

Hi i am new, i'm 14. my mums foster dad (my grandad) has vascular dementia and i can't do anything but watch him fade away and he's so lonely! his 'real' sons don't want him to go into a home but the alternative is to let him carry on staying in a house he doesn't recognise with the occasional...

Here I am three weeks into my Moms diagnosis.. Her deterioration is so fast it's hard to keep up.. My Dad(86) is grieving the loss of the love of his life and at the same time cherishing every moment he has with her.. It is humbling to be a part of it.. I am in automatic mode doing everything I can...

It didn't take us long to realise that the combination of toileting issues and the well known care-home-clothes-eating-monster meant that cheap non-iron elasticated waist trousers are the most practical option. We currently have Dad in £6 track suit bottoms from Tesco. But he was always such a...

Hello everyone I only joined this forum recently but I am sorry to say Mum died this morning. Her passing so soon has been a shock but she is now released from her condition. It only took 10 weeks I was advised by friends to join a forum and I am glad I did. If anyone is reading this looking for...

Hi, My Dad has an assessment for CHC funding in a few days time and I have been invited this time - last time he was assessed (and turned down, twice in 2009), I wasn’t invited and knew nothing about it until afterwards. I just wondered if anyone had any advice as to how I should approach it. ...

Just had mum on the phone. She wants me to go "now" and bring her home. I explained it was probably better she stayed a few days to get well again and for them to sort out her Laxido. It transpired she thought she was taking it to stop the diarrohea!!! The had a lovely mess in the home no doubt!!....

I lost my Mother last week. She had been hospitlalised as she was not taking her medication correctly, I was convinced she had dementure as I had been through the same procedure with my father who has Alzheimers. They tested her for a clot on the lung, gall stones and liver failure as she had...

mother in law is at the stage now where she cant really be left on her own in the day, we have had a terrible week and weekend! we think it would be better for her to go to a day centre rather than hiding in her room waiting for us to come home from work, she is getting very clingy and whereas...

Haven't posted for a while but have been reading everyday. Those who have read my posts will know that dad went into a care home as an emergency in the middle of sept he hasn't settled he has been aggressive and resistive of personal care and they have put him on duloxetine nearly 2 weeks ago. When...

My wife who suffers from vascular dementia has lived in a care home for over two years.Unfortunately she still does not understand the situation and when I visit acts as though we are visiting the home together and will be going home together. I wonder whether things are likely to change after...

We took my dad for his assessment today. He couldn't remember how many children he has or our names, even though I was in the room. It was very upsetting to watch him struggling but I realised he hasn't known my name for some time now, he always calls me love or sweetheart. The next stage is a...

My wife exhibits a problem with a constantly running nose when administered 10 mg of Aricept. When we reduce to 5 mg the symptoms subside, not totally but within manageable proportions. i have recently trialled a 5mg one day followed by 10mg the next but the nasal symptoms return quickly. Has this...

My wife has lost considerable weight over the last 12months (generally back to when I first met her) although it doesn't appear to affect her energy level, etc. This has been reviewed with our GP without identifying any specific cause. Last week she suffered a seizure lasting 15mins, was treated as...

I thought this may help or advise others of to my own experiences from previous. If you think your loved one has dementia, memory loss. 1. Take them to their doctors and request that doctor give them assessment for memory. 2. It could be a special clinic they go to for these assessments....

Hi I am new to the site. My dad passed away in october this year with dementia and my mum has just gone into a nursing home also with dementia.She always cries when she sees me getting ready to go after a visit,its heartbreaking so i tell her i am just nipping to the shop.I am scared to death...

I had one of those 'moments' today ... when your heart just stops and someone squeezes all the breath out of you. I was in the garden centre cafe with my mum having a hot chocolate and a sticky cake - I just happened to glance up towards the entrance, and a lady around my age came in with what...

:DMum cried when I visited her again today in hospital and said, I don't like it in here no-one talks to you. Get me a taxi, I'm going home and they can't stop me. That's not true Mum the nurses do chat to you but they can't be with you all day because they're busy with other patients too. You...

I am looking for some feedback and thoughts on the introduction of a GPS/Locating bracelet designed and aimed at family members who have dementia and stray from home. I am a serving poilice office involved in the location of Missing persons. and looking to introduce a system to help families and...

Has anyone any ideas of suitable xmas gifts for mum who has dementia and is now in a care home , She doesn't read anymore and struggles to play dominoes etc , has a love of a cuddly toy which she carries around with her and talks to as if it is her baby , but is not interested in any other cuddly...

Firstly apologies for only posting when I reach rock bottom,wish i felt able to offer advice to others but I'm making such a mess out of everything I don't think I'm qualified.Briefly my dad has ad my mother has sever mobility problems,both at home with carers and daily visits from me and my...