Forum: Support for people with dementia and their carers

So sorry to bring up this sort of disgusting topic, but I know you will understand. My mom's urine has an absolutely FOUL odor. To the point that if she is slightly incontinent in the bathroom- even if it is cleaned up- the odor is so strong it's nearly unbearable. I have sent her over to the...

This is my first time contacting you. The last 24hrs have been rough going. Mum is 86yrs and was found by police walking up the high rd in bare feet and wearing a few cardigans . She was diagnosed with Alzheimers 2 years ago. She refuses to go to the day centre, and has ideas about the staff...

THE INVISIBLES who life goes on as normal . or live to far away , and think they are arm chair experts .. people whose parent claims benefits who put their parents in a care home , cause it is free of charge , and then quickly say people whose parent's have worked all their lives and bought...

Just a quickie post from me (that'll make a change, I hear you all sigh with relief:D:D) Although dad was on good form for his birthday yesterday he has had a lot of falls lately so his care home tried and tried to obtain a urine sample (not easy when someone is incontinent and cant wee to...

Just when you think everything is running 'normally' if it can where Alzheimer's is concerned, mum threw a wobbly at tea time. I usually ask her what she wants and the usual reply is i'll have the same as you, so ok when I gave it to her its I don't eat this or that and there is too much, what???...

First break for 2 years, five days off going down to a farm in Dorset. Day 2 I come down with food poisoning! (my cousin's husband whom I met and who lives in Devon got it too). We know it was the sandwich we ate in a pub and my cousin had something different and she is OK. Thought, do I stay or do...

After a bad couple of days, I decided to take the plunge and visit local homes :/. The first two for various reasons did not feel right. Primarily, the residents appeared much worse than my mother (many totally unresponsive):(. The last home however, felt very friendly, homely and warm. The...

Well I've run out of ideas now. Can't get mum to accept a 'home help' (daren't mention the word carer). I'm stuck here taking care of her when I live 120 miles away. She had a complete rage last night about me not going home to my husband. She insisted this morning she was taking her mobility...

she is meant to take 2 mg at 5.30pm but when i came in at 3.55pm she had taken it. Will she be ok??.

I've posted before about feeling like a bull in a tea shop with mum. I am the person who she speaks to the most and we've always shared our thoughts (difficult to break the habit!). I spoke to her a few minutes ago. She sounded a bit low so after a chat I asked her if she was ok. I'm always...

Over the last few years my mum's mobility has reduced, her weight has increased, and it is no longer possible to take her out for a bra fitting. In any case, when we used to do this she refused to wear any of the bras I bought, at great expense, because they were not M&S bras and didn't feel like...

Wife sat up in bed about 4am this morning in need of toilet. Noted she had a strong muscle spasm so quickly sat by her side to provide support, physical and moral. Kept talking to her about all kinds of things (not sure if comfort/reassurance for her or me!) and maintained her in sitting position...

Thanks everyone for your advice back in March. We have moved Mum and she settled in straight away. Nursing home have been great with her and Mum is much brighter in her mood. There is a lot more going on and Mum really seems to like people watching, she positions herself by the lifts to see the...

Mum went into her new home on Monday and I visited last night after work. The home have built a pretend pub at the home so that the 'guests' can feel like they have had an evening out and they can meet their visitors in there as well. It was quite packed last night, just like a mini pub. On my...

I had to laugh at myself the other day - mum hides things and says she doesn't know where they have gone or someone has taken it. Well she needed some new undies, bought some home for her and told her to put them with the others, could I find them when needed - no. So bought another lot, now I'm...

Hi, This is the first ever time I have plucked up courage to post on any forum, although I have been reading Talking Point regularly over the last few weeks. I can relate to so much, from the first signs in Mum over twelve years ago, the wrong word used, milk in the oven etc to the person I...