Jan123

When mum moved into sheltered housing with extra care four weeks ago we were expecting her to be unsettled for a while especialy as her partner is in hospital and she would be moving in on her own and as predicted she was quite confused and kept on asking to go back home although we new she was much better off where she was as she had support and a whole community around her it certaintly made me feel better but could'nt convince her of that.
But after a couple of weeks she seemed to be getting used to it she was getting to know the staff and had made friends with a couple of other ladies that live there, she had a couple of wobbles but nothing to bad, over the last few days I would ring her and she was fine and I began to think perhaps things will be better now and I wont have to worry so much, then the phone rang this afternoon and it was mum she wanted to know when she was going back home as she dose,nt want to be there anymore and no matter how much I reassured her she was'nt having it she started to cry saying she was lonely although she had been with her friends for most of the day and my brother visited her all day yesturday she had forgotten that, I visit her once a week she goes to her day centre twice a week and she can always go down to the lounge and find someone to talk to, she wanted me to go and get her as I am 75 miles away I could'nt do that so she put the phone down on me. I have learnt over time not to call her straight back and left it a while when an hour went past and she phoned me again to apologise and hope she did'nt upset me, I reassured her she had'nt and she forgot all about it. I will never be complacent again, my mum does have alzheimers and will have days like this along with the good ones.