ellejay

My mum and I have never been close,got nothing in common.To her,family was what got in the way of having fun.She tried to make me the kind of daughter she could show off,teaching me to pluck my eyebrows while I was still at primary school,(dad put his foot down on that!)

When I was 14 I met my future husband and was welcomed into his lovely family.Even now,almost 50yrs later, my SIL is my friend first! I married when I was 17 and,free from responsibility at last, Dad flew the coop to a happy life

OH and I have 2 sons and 5 grandsons.

When my MIL became ill eleven years ago(sub clavial steals and then cancer) she moved in with us and we were able to care for her until she died.

Now my mum has Vas D,she's angry that she's alone,she's always saying it's not fair,apparently other peoples daughters are never off THEIR mothers doorsteps,and as she's never done a bad thing to anyone her whole life, she should have someone to look after her(preferably a man,but failing that.....)

When my MIL was ill and confused,it broke my heart.With mum it's like I'm a bystander,I do what is nessessary (shopping/medical stuff/form filling etc) because I have to, not because I want to and that is sad.